I’ve been thinking a lot about anxiety recently, and all the people I know and love who struggle with it. I assumed that by the time I reached my 30s, my anxiety would have calmed down. I suppose I thought that when I was settled in my personal and professional life, my anxiety would fall by the wayside. Unfortunately I’m it still troubled by it, but it’s not quite as bad as it has been in the past. I’m not alone in this and I’ve realised that whatever life choices you make, there will be a certain amount of pressure, resulting in stress and anxiety. Whether you choose to have kids, get married, or stay single, all of those decisions will bring worry and societal pressure. Work enviably creates it’s own stress and pressure also.
Even though I’ve come a long way towards self-acceptance, I still beat myself up occasionally because I never feel that I’m working hard enough and my achievements are not what they should be. I have always have a ‘to do’ list as long as my arm, but I try to accept that I can only accomplish so much in a day and that has to be ok. I repeat this to myself like a mantra, but the dysfunctional part of my mind does its best to convince my otherwise. I remind myself that this is a just negative thought pattern, nothing more.
I think the mistake most of us make is to believe that happiness will come after reaching the next goal. I’ve certainly thought that getting that next job, having another book published or reaching my target weight would make me content. It’s never worked so far, so it’s safe to assume that it never will. All anyone ever truly has is the moment we are in, right now. If you can aim to calmly exist in the present, happiness tends to find you. It’s much easier said than done, but it’s a constructive goal to strive for.
When my mind is bogged down with anxiety, I find myself dressing simply. I like this dress from Ganni as it’s super comfortable and requires very little thought. I just throw it on with a pair of espadrilles, these ones are from Castañer.